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Savage Love: Game Over
Is it ever OK to stop being GGG? I’ve been with my husband for 26 years. Shortly after we got together, my husband disclosed a major kink: MFM threesomes. I was young and a virgin and up for anything then, but we didn’t start hooking up with other men until…
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Savage Love: Reunion Blues
I fell in love with my second cousin about four years ago at a family reunion. (I hadn’t laid eyes on him since I was a kid!) I was 15 when we met, he was two years older, and we were in a long-distance relationship for three years. We ended…
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Savage Love: My Partner Had Sex with my Parents
I’m a 24-year-old gay man with a 31-year-old bi boyfriend. I’ve known since we got together that he’s a lot more sexually experienced than I am, but it’s never been a big deal before now. This weekend, he met my parents for what we thought would be the first time.…
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Savage Love: Return of the Crabs
I’m a gay male in my forties and I’ve been married to my husband for nine years. There was some mild infidelity on his part (exchanging photos and flirting via text with another guy) early in our relationship. I confronted him at the time, and he lied to me. I…
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Savage Love: Are the Straights OK?
My wife got drunk at a vacation house we rented with a bunch of friends and cheated on me with my best friend in the hot tub. They didn’t have sex but they did other things. I wasn’t there but there were eight other people in the hot tub and…
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Savage Love: The Hall Pass and The Jackass
I’m a 19-year-old girl who was dumped few months ago. My partner found out he didn’t like my body when we were having sex for the first time and he told me right after. We were actually still in bed naked when he told me. He kept cuddling me to…
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Savage Lovecast: Sack Lunch Leftovers
On the first Thursday of every month I host Sack Lunch, an online hangout exclusively for Magnum subscribers to the Savage Lovecast, my weekly, call-in advice podcast. I take questions, invite listeners to answer them with me, and we have a blast. I’m giving this week’s column over to some…
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Savage Love: Coming Out and Other Queer Quickies
I just attended the nauseating wedding of my 30-year-old niece to her boyfriend of several years. Both of them seem as gay as possible but they are diehard religious fanatics. I can list 50 signs these two are gay and once you point it out to someone who isn’t a…
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Savage Love: When OnlyFans Followers Aren’t Only Fans
I’m a 40-year-old gay male. I live in a big city, in a dense neighborhood. While I’ve been working from home during COVID, I’ve been sitting at my kitchen table facing a big window. Across the alley is an apartment with a deck. At one point, I noticed a cute,…
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Savage Love: Should I Disclose My Herpes Condition Before an Orgy?
We’re a happily married couple from Europe, longtime readers, both in our thirties, and both interested in having sex sometimes with other people. Before the pandemic we were invited to a private sex party in a major European capital. It was an age- and face-controlled swingers night with background checks…
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Savage Love: Don’t Let the Fuccbois Win
I’ve been living with my boyfriend for a year and need some relationship advice. We met on FetLife and I was honest about being in an open relationship (at the time) and seeking a sexual connection over a relationship. But one nut after another and pretty soon we were professing…
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Savage Love: Cheating With the Best Friend
I need your advice. My partner of 27 years has been sleeping with my best friend. This has been going on for a year and a half. As far as I knew, we had a monogamous relationship, even if things had gotten stale between us in recent years. And my…
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Savage Love: Getting the Shaft
I’m a European heterosexual girl and reading your column from afar has been a good way for me to better know the sex world! I am wondering if you have advice for me about a “faster” way to do blowjobs. Or rather a way to make my boyfriend come faster…
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Savage Love: Reconciling With the Alter Ego
I’m someone who does gay porn for a living. How do people who do gay porn meet someone who doesn’t just sexualize or fetishize them? I can’t eat, sleep, and breathe my work constantly but the guys I meet want me to live out the “porn persona” version of myself…
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Savage Love: The Sub Hits the Switch
You’ve said that everyone is entitled to a “zone of erotic autonomy.” I was wondering if you thought that “zone” extends to sending thousands of dollars to a “FinDom” (financial dominatrix). I’m a 33-year-old straight woman and I love my husband and we have a great (or so I thought)…
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Savage Love Quickies: Let’s Get Sexual
I have a quick question about bisexuality. What if one has a preference for dating straight individuals? As a straight woman, I am only interested in dating straight men. Is that some kind of phobia? Or is it okay for that to be a preference? I’ve always wanted to ask…
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