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Savage Love: Stop Thinking ‘Is He the Right Guy Forever?’
I’m a 28-year-old queer woman. It’s been a while since I’ve been in a relationship, as it was impossible for me to make a physical or emotional connection with anyone after I was raped four years ago. I finally found a very, very, very nice fella. He’s 36 years old,…
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Savage Love Quickies: Lies, Piss and Sexless Existence
My boyfriend and I have not had sex for more than two years. When I first asked him about it, he hemmed and hawed. When I pressed him, he said he doesn’t have any interest. I felt like he was not telling me the whole truth. When I suggested he…
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Savage Love: Don’t Grin and Bear Painful PIV Sex
I have a problem. (How’s that for an opener?) I’m a 60-something cis woman with a 30-something cis man lover. The problem is my vagina is extremely tight. Also, sometimes I bleed a little bit after PIV sex (penis in vagina) and then urinating burns, but only briefly. We are…
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Savage Love: Take a Reasonable Risk and Meet up With This Pig
I lost my lover unexpectedly last weekend. He was a long-time friend and periodic hook-up, and things were finally starting to turn as serious as I’d always secretly wanted them to be. I’m writing because I don’t know what to do with my desire for him, because that certainly didn’t…
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Savage Love: No Relationship Is a Paradise, Polyamorous or Otherwise
I’m a 34-year-old straight cis male. About eighteen months ago I met a lovely human that I’m crazy about. When we started dating, she said she needed us to be polyamorous and I agreed. It was a first for both of us! I’d always been interested — my parents are…
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Savage Love: Gay Sub Worries He’s Too Saddo To Give Nephew Advice
I’m a submissive gay man with a 15-year-old nephew. Through his actions and words, both his parents and I have gathered he might be gay, which is absolutely no issue. However, we’ve also recently discovered that he seems to be interested in D/s themes with him as the sub. Besides…
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Savage Love Quickies: Orgasms, Fantasies and Lesbian Sisters
I’m a very sexual cis male in his thirties. Three years ago, I met this woman who just blew me away. She is eight years older, extremely beautiful, intelligent, and funny. I came onto her early on and she told me straight up that she was asexual. She likes kissing,…
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Savage Love: Is Drinking Cum Bad for Your Health?
I’m a 40-year-old bi guy, and I’m really into drinking cum. I say “drinking” and not “swallowing” because I’m talking about glassfuls. I make and sell videos of me drinking large amounts of cum. Since I don’t have a stable of guys to supply me, I use frozen cum. It…
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Savage Love: Talk Dirty To Your Partner, Do-Si-Do
Long time reader here, first-time writer. I’m a bisexual woman. I’ve been married to a straight man for eight years. Our marriage and the straight sex is amazing. We communicate well, and we have a lot of fun together. You probably think you know where this is going, Dan, but trust…
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Savage Love: Brief Prostate Exam Leaves Patient Into Butt Stuff Worried
I’m a heterosexual cisgender male who loves prostate stimulation. I discovered it later in life, but it’s been a staple for the last 15 years. I’m worried I’m pushing the envelope too much and need your advice. Lately, the last six months or so, I will have an orgasm that’s…
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Savage Love: Straight Guy Thinks About Men Spanking Him
I’m a straight guy but my whole life I have wanted to be spanked by older men. Does this make any sense? Because I’m confused. I don’t like or want penis. Yet I want to be spanked as a punishment by men. I don’t understand myself sometimes. — Sincerely Pondering…
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Savage Love: Gay FinDom Scene Might Be Too Straight for Gay Sub
I’m a gay man in his forties. I very much love my husband but two years ago we acknowledged that our desire for each other sexually just wasn’t there anymore. Thanks in part to reading your column for many years, we were able to have a calm conversation about whether…
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Savage Love: Couple Exposed to COVID Clashes Over Christmas Plans
My boyfriend is male, I am female, and we’ve been together almost three years. We live alone in separate homes, but spend about three or four nights a week together. We’re both fully vaxxed and boosted, and we mask in public, etc. On the Monday before Christmas, I started feeling…
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Savage Love: A Committed Relationship Doesn’t Always Mean Exclusive
I’ve been in a committed relationship for 10 years — committed because my boyfriend wants it that way — but I’d be fine with an open relationship and have asked about it. He’s made it quite clear that he thinks it’s “wrong.” I’m almost never at his apartment. He doesn’t…
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Savage Love: Extreme Bondage Desires Leave Straight Kinkster in Knots
I’m extremely kinky, with an emphasis on extreme. To give an example, I love long-term and extremely restrictive bondage. Think full-body casts or getting locked up for an entire weekend. I’m a 32-year-old straight male who has been married for five years. In the last year, we opened up our…
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Savage Love Quickies: Urethral Sounding, Oral Sex and OnlyFans
My wife and I are in a great ENM (ethical non-monogamy) marriage. We have two couples that we are friends with and get together regularly for sex, and we each pursue solo FWB (friends with benefits) relationships. During COVID, we started posting pictures on Reddit, which were well received. This…
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